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27 Nov 2019
Musings

Dear Stevo…

This time last year, I was struggling really hard to figure out what to write. I would start writing and press delete. I have a folder labelled ‘Homeless’ for all my half-written documents that don’t have a place on this page yet. Anne Lamott wrote that whenever she struggled with writer’s block, she would open a new document and write a letter to her brother called Stevo. Just addressing your words to one person can make all the difference, so I tried writing a letter to Stevo as well.

I’ve attached my letter below because a) reading back, I think it’s funny and b) for the aspiring writers that follow me, I think it’s important to reveal that the writing process isn’t linear or pretty. We often need a guy called Stevo to prompt us into action. This letter eventually turned into this official post about my birthday last year.

Whether you’re a writer, student, or it’s the first time you’ve come across my words, I hope you’re inspired to start writing letters, and that you know you are so worth celebrating.

Dear Stevo,

I’m struggling to write the words on the page because I don’t know what to write about. That’s a lie – I do know what I want to write about, but the words aren’t flowing. Anne Lamott told me to write a letter to you whenever I’m stuck, so here we are.

Perfectionism is my big thing. I’m still not sure what my voice is. And I still have to scroll through the words of someone else to get my inspiration. I wonder if I’m really going to make it and if this will be worth it. But damm it- I have to try!

There are two pieces I want to write for this week. One is for the girl who doesn’t feel like she’s worth being celebrated. Who doesn’t feel like she’s worth people rallying around her and celebrating her. Why does she feel that way? Probably because people didn’t really show up for her in the past. Or maybe birthday’s weren’t a big thing in the family. Plus she doesn’t believe very good things about herself. What I would say to her is that her birthday is special, irrespective of who is or isn’t showing up. It’s the day she came into the world with fists raised, ready to leave a mark on the world. On the day she opened her eyes, lives changed. I would tell her that there are some years that may not feel like a big deal- like at 15. You’ll wait in anticipation for the big ones like 18 or 21 only to wonder why nothing special is happening. But some years you’ll be pleasantly surprised.

You don’t need the big party to feel loved. I woke up on my 21st wishing I had my community around me. But the flat pulled through for you. The night ended and you’ll learn that things pull together at the last minute. The right people will pull through.

I’d tell her that every inch of her is worth celebrating. That even if it feels like the world doesn’t care she’s still worth celebrating. There are years where it’ll feel eventful and everyone is gathered round waiting for the glitz, glam and sparkle. And there’ll be years where you’ll have to be the sparkle. You’ll have to be your own cheerleader and learn to celebrate yourself. You’re going to have to figure out how to love on and celebrate yourself before you can invite anyone else to do it for you.

I remember when people didn’t want to make the effort to show up. I remember when people showed up and made the day about them. Irrespective of who does or doesn’t show up, it doesn’t lower your capacity to be celebrated.

A year ago, in the days leading up to 21, Slumpy took up residence in my heart and telling me that there wouldn’t be anything special this year either, and left me feeling heavy. I was miles away from my community back home, we were caught up in the rush to submit assignments, forgotten.  21 is placed on a pedestal yet nothing felt special.

You’re allowed to be sentimental on your birthday and be all up in your feelings like a Drake song.

The flat pulled together to rally around me at the last minute. The guys made an emergency trip to Tesco to buy a decadent cake topped with Maltesers. We used cigarette lighters as makeshift candles, and a single balloon found at the bottom of a show bag was inflated to celebrate the first year into my 20s. Afterwards, we caught the bus into the city where I rode my first mechanic bull and danced the night away as fake snow rained down on our heads.  It was a rushed, last minute, affair, but it was enough. 

All this to say that if a single shred of you has ever wondered whether you are worthy of being celebrated, hear me when I say you are, you are, you are.

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The truth about impact 💥 My first step to writing for the internet (and eventually starting this business) was starting my blog in 2018. It felt very "ew cringe" at the time. But every week, I'd write personal essays about alll the feelings and wanting to be a Creative. The whole time, it felt like I was writing into a void with no one reading and no one taking me seriously. (And some weeks, I'd even let the self-doubt and lack of "views" stop me from publishing anything.) But I continued writing and building my body of work. Eventually, my first blog post landed me my first client... And sparked a chain of events that led to me starting my copywriting business full-time in 2020. Sharing this because when we first start creating or pivoting into something new... And it feels like we're gaining no views. No comments. No validation. And even losing parts of an existing audience... It's tempting to believe that what we're creating doesn't matter and we should give up. But earlier this year, I got an email from someone who stumbled on an old blog post then binge-read the rest. (Swipe to see*). The posts that I believed were reaching "no one" were actually finding their way to the screens of the people who needed to read them the most. If I'd let the self-doubt (and imaginary nay-sayers) stop me, I wouldn't have the business I have today. More importantly, my words would never have found their way to the people it was supposed to. I've said it before and I'll say it again (mostly to remind myself): 1) Your creations have impact - even if you can't always see it. 2) If you want to be a creative for the long-haul, you have to create. Even when the numbers fluctuate. Even when it feels like you're speaking into a void. Even when all the mud you're throwing at the wall just isn't sticking. Because you never know who will end up reading and passing your creations on to the next person who needs them. *shared with consent #freelancewriter #creativeentrepreneur #launchcopywriter #freelancingfemales #coursecreator #creativehobby #smallbusinessowner #entreprenuership #creatives #writersofig #onwriting #contentcreator
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The truth about impact 💥 My first step to writing for the internet (and eventually starting this business) was starting my blog in 2018. It felt very "ew cringe" at the time. But every week, I'd write personal essays about alll the feelings and wanting to be a Creative. The whole time, it felt like I was writing into a void with no one reading and no one taking me seriously. (And some weeks, I'd even let the self-doubt and lack of "views" stop me from publishing anything.) But I continued writing and building my body of work. Eventually, my first blog post landed me my first client... And sparked a chain of events that led to me starting my copywriting business full-time in 2020. Sharing this because when we first start creating or pivoting into something new... And it feels like we're gaining no views. No comments. No validation. And even losing parts of an existing audience... It's tempting to believe that what we're creating doesn't matter and we should give up. But earlier this year, I got an email from someone who stumbled on an old blog post then binge-read the rest. (Swipe to see*). The posts that I believed were reaching "no one" were actually finding their way to the screens of the people who needed to read them the most. If I'd let the self-doubt (and imaginary nay-sayers) stop me, I wouldn't have the business I have today. More importantly, my words would never have found their way to the people it was supposed to. I've said it before and I'll say it again (mostly to remind myself): 1) Your creations have impact - even if you can't always see it. 2) If you want to be a creative for the long-haul, you have to create. Even when the numbers fluctuate. Even when it feels like you're speaking into a void. Even when all the mud you're throwing at the wall just isn't sticking. Because you never know who will end up reading and passing your creations on to the next person who needs them. *shared with consent #freelancewriter #creativeentrepreneur #launchcopywriter #freelancingfemales #coursecreator #creativehobby #smallbusinessowner #entreprenuership #creatives #writersofig #onwriting #contentcreator
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While it looks like I've got my snorkelling sh*t together -- not pictured is the literal sink-or-swim situation I found myself in 10 mins beforehand. On our first snorkelling stop - I found myself battered by the choppy waves, choking on mouthfuls of salt water, and forcing my cramping arms to paddle like my life depended on it (because it did). And I was ready to retreat to the safety of our hotel’s paddle pool.  But afterward, we went to a more serene snorkelling spot where the fish practically pose for selfies with you. There, I could rest. I had time to appreciate the coral and remember why I loved snorkelling so much. And I could even practice my duck dives! This wild snorkelling adventure got me thinking about what it's really like to be a business owner. I've spent the majority of my self-employed era diving into more sink-or-swim situations than I can count. From my first project, to my first launch, all the way to trying to find the right contractors to hire — I've had to dive head-first outta my comfort zone and into the deep-end, and then paddle vigorously to stay afloat. And I bet you have, too. Most of the time, it can feel like the tide is working against us. And when there’s no immediate lifeboat in sight, it can be tempting to throw up our arms and give up. But while getting out of our comfort zones is crucial for becoming a better business owner (after all, smooth seas don’t make skilled sailors) — I’m realising it’s ok to slink back to calmer waters every so often. To rest. To find the joy and remember what we love about business and why we got into it in the first place. So if you’ve been battling rough seas where it feels like the tide is always against you — don’t abandon ship just yet. Take it as a sign to drop anchor for a while, float on serene waters, an and rediscover why you started in the first place. Remember, every ebb has its flow. . . . . . . #freelancewriter #creativecopywriter #launchcopy #digitalproductlaunch #coursecreators #creativeentrepreneur #launchcopywriter #bali #snorkelling #onlinebusinessowner #businessadvice #freelancingadvice
While it looks like I've got my snorkelling sh*t together -- not pictured is the literal sink-or-swim situation I found myself in 10 mins beforehand. On our first snorkelling stop - I found myself battered by the choppy waves, choking on mouthfuls of salt water, and forcing my cramping arms to paddle like my life depended on it (because it did). And I was ready to retreat to the safety of our hotel’s paddle pool.  But afterward, we went to a more serene snorkelling spot where the fish practically pose for selfies with you. There, I could rest. I had time to appreciate the coral and remember why I loved snorkelling so much. And I could even practice my duck dives! This wild snorkelling adventure got me thinking about what it's really like to be a business owner. I've spent the majority of my self-employed era diving into more sink-or-swim situations than I can count. From my first project, to my first launch, all the way to trying to find the right contractors to hire — I've had to dive head-first outta my comfort zone and into the deep-end, and then paddle vigorously to stay afloat. And I bet you have, too. Most of the time, it can feel like the tide is working against us. And when there’s no immediate lifeboat in sight, it can be tempting to throw up our arms and give up. But while getting out of our comfort zones is crucial for becoming a better business owner (after all, smooth seas don’t make skilled sailors) — I’m realising it’s ok to slink back to calmer waters every so often. To rest. To find the joy and remember what we love about business and why we got into it in the first place. So if you’ve been battling rough seas where it feels like the tide is always against you — don’t abandon ship just yet. Take it as a sign to drop anchor for a while, float on serene waters, an and rediscover why you started in the first place. Remember, every ebb has its flow. . . . . . . #freelancewriter #creativecopywriter #launchcopy #digitalproductlaunch #coursecreators #creativeentrepreneur #launchcopywriter #bali #snorkelling #onlinebusinessowner #businessadvice #freelancingadvice
While it looks like I've got my snorkelling sh*t together -- not pictured is the literal sink-or-swim situation I found myself in 10 mins beforehand. On our first snorkelling stop - I found myself battered by the choppy waves, choking on mouthfuls of salt water, and forcing my cramping arms to paddle like my life depended on it (because it did). And I was ready to retreat to the safety of our hotel’s paddle pool.  But afterward, we went to a more serene snorkelling spot where the fish practically pose for selfies with you. There, I could rest. I had time to appreciate the coral and remember why I loved snorkelling so much. And I could even practice my duck dives! This wild snorkelling adventure got me thinking about what it's really like to be a business owner. I've spent the majority of my self-employed era diving into more sink-or-swim situations than I can count. From my first project, to my first launch, all the way to trying to find the right contractors to hire — I've had to dive head-first outta my comfort zone and into the deep-end, and then paddle vigorously to stay afloat. And I bet you have, too. Most of the time, it can feel like the tide is working against us. And when there’s no immediate lifeboat in sight, it can be tempting to throw up our arms and give up. But while getting out of our comfort zones is crucial for becoming a better business owner (after all, smooth seas don’t make skilled sailors) — I’m realising it’s ok to slink back to calmer waters every so often. To rest. To find the joy and remember what we love about business and why we got into it in the first place. So if you’ve been battling rough seas where it feels like the tide is always against you — don’t abandon ship just yet. Take it as a sign to drop anchor for a while, float on serene waters, an and rediscover why you started in the first place. Remember, every ebb has its flow. . . . . . . #freelancewriter #creativecopywriter #launchcopy #digitalproductlaunch #coursecreators #creativeentrepreneur #launchcopywriter #bali #snorkelling #onlinebusinessowner #businessadvice #freelancingadvice
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While it looks like I've got my snorkelling sh*t together -- not pictured is the literal sink-or-swim situation I found myself in 10 mins beforehand. On our first snorkelling stop - I found myself battered by the choppy waves, choking on mouthfuls of salt water, and forcing my cramping arms to paddle like my life depended on it (because it did). And I was ready to retreat to the safety of our hotel’s paddle pool.  But afterward, we went to a more serene snorkelling spot where the fish practically pose for selfies with you. There, I could rest. I had time to appreciate the coral and remember why I loved snorkelling so much. And I could even practice my duck dives! This wild snorkelling adventure got me thinking about what it's really like to be a business owner. I've spent the majority of my self-employed era diving into more sink-or-swim situations than I can count. From my first project, to my first launch, all the way to trying to find the right contractors to hire — I've had to dive head-first outta my comfort zone and into the deep-end, and then paddle vigorously to stay afloat. And I bet you have, too. Most of the time, it can feel like the tide is working against us. And when there’s no immediate lifeboat in sight, it can be tempting to throw up our arms and give up. But while getting out of our comfort zones is crucial for becoming a better business owner (after all, smooth seas don’t make skilled sailors) — I’m realising it’s ok to slink back to calmer waters every so often. To rest. To find the joy and remember what we love about business and why we got into it in the first place. So if you’ve been battling rough seas where it feels like the tide is always against you — don’t abandon ship just yet. Take it as a sign to drop anchor for a while, float on serene waters, an and rediscover why you started in the first place. Remember, every ebb has its flow. . . . . . . #freelancewriter #creativecopywriter #launchcopy #digitalproductlaunch #coursecreators #creativeentrepreneur #launchcopywriter #bali #snorkelling #onlinebusinessowner #businessadvice #freelancingadvice
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Celebrating 6 months of married life with my partner in crime ❤ When people ask me what married life is like, I say: "It feels both utterly surreal and completely normal all at the same time." Surreal because I'm amazed at all the events that led us here. And normal because it feels like Ben has always been by my side. The past 6 months have been filled with new discoveries about each other's quirks. Escaping on many holidays. Binge watching tv shows in one night. Arguments over dishes, laundry, and who hogs the blanket the most. (PS. Our solution is to have 2 blankets). And while it's only a teeny, tiny toe dip into the pond of married life -- I can't wait to experience more surreal and normal moments life throws at us.
Celebrating 6 months of married life with my partner in crime ❤ When people ask me what married life is like, I say: "It feels both utterly surreal and completely normal all at the same time." Surreal because I'm amazed at all the events that led us here. And normal because it feels like Ben has always been by my side. The past 6 months have been filled with new discoveries about each other's quirks. Escaping on many holidays. Binge watching tv shows in one night. Arguments over dishes, laundry, and who hogs the blanket the most. (PS. Our solution is to have 2 blankets). And while it's only a teeny, tiny toe dip into the pond of married life -- I can't wait to experience more surreal and normal moments life throws at us.
Celebrating 6 months of married life with my partner in crime ❤ When people ask me what married life is like, I say: "It feels both utterly surreal and completely normal all at the same time." Surreal because I'm amazed at all the events that led us here. And normal because it feels like Ben has always been by my side. The past 6 months have been filled with new discoveries about each other's quirks. Escaping on many holidays. Binge watching tv shows in one night. Arguments over dishes, laundry, and who hogs the blanket the most. (PS. Our solution is to have 2 blankets). And while it's only a teeny, tiny toe dip into the pond of married life -- I can't wait to experience more surreal and normal moments life throws at us.
Celebrating 6 months of married life with my partner in crime ❤ When people ask me what married life is like, I say: "It feels both utterly surreal and completely normal all at the same time." Surreal because I'm amazed at all the events that led us here. And normal because it feels like Ben has always been by my side. The past 6 months have been filled with new discoveries about each other's quirks. Escaping on many holidays. Binge watching tv shows in one night. Arguments over dishes, laundry, and who hogs the blanket the most. (PS. Our solution is to have 2 blankets). And while it's only a teeny, tiny toe dip into the pond of married life -- I can't wait to experience more surreal and normal moments life throws at us.
Celebrating 6 months of married life with my partner in crime ❤ When people ask me what married life is like, I say: "It feels both utterly surreal and completely normal all at the same time." Surreal because I'm amazed at all the events that led us here. And normal because it feels like Ben has always been by my side. The past 6 months have been filled with new discoveries about each other's quirks. Escaping on many holidays. Binge watching tv shows in one night. Arguments over dishes, laundry, and who hogs the blanket the most. (PS. Our solution is to have 2 blankets). And while it's only a teeny, tiny toe dip into the pond of married life -- I can't wait to experience more surreal and normal moments life throws at us.
Celebrating 6 months of married life with my partner in crime ❤ When people ask me what married life is like, I say: "It feels both utterly surreal and completely normal all at the same time." Surreal because I'm amazed at all the events that led us here. And normal because it feels like Ben has always been by my side. The past 6 months have been filled with new discoveries about each other's quirks. Escaping on many holidays. Binge watching tv shows in one night. Arguments over dishes, laundry, and who hogs the blanket the most. (PS. Our solution is to have 2 blankets). And while it's only a teeny, tiny toe dip into the pond of married life -- I can't wait to experience more surreal and normal moments life throws at us.
Celebrating 6 months of married life with my partner in crime ❤ When people ask me what married life is like, I say: "It feels both utterly surreal and completely normal all at the same time." Surreal because I'm amazed at all the events that led us here. And normal because it feels like Ben has always been by my side. The past 6 months have been filled with new discoveries about each other's quirks. Escaping on many holidays. Binge watching tv shows in one night. Arguments over dishes, laundry, and who hogs the blanket the most. (PS. Our solution is to have 2 blankets). And while it's only a teeny, tiny toe dip into the pond of married life -- I can't wait to experience more surreal and normal moments life throws at us.
Celebrating 6 months of married life with my partner in crime ❤ When people ask me what married life is like, I say: "It feels both utterly surreal and completely normal all at the same time." Surreal because I'm amazed at all the events that led us here. And normal because it feels like Ben has always been by my side. The past 6 months have been filled with new discoveries about each other's quirks. Escaping on many holidays. Binge watching tv shows in one night. Arguments over dishes, laundry, and who hogs the blanket the most. (PS. Our solution is to have 2 blankets). And while it's only a teeny, tiny toe dip into the pond of married life -- I can't wait to experience more surreal and normal moments life throws at us.
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Celebrating 6 months of married life with my partner in crime ❤ When people ask me what married life is like, I say: "It feels both utterly surreal and completely normal all at the same time." Surreal because I'm amazed at all the events that led us here. And normal because it feels like Ben has always been by my side. The past 6 months have been filled with new discoveries about each other's quirks. Escaping on many holidays. Binge watching tv shows in one night. Arguments over dishes, laundry, and who hogs the blanket the most. (PS. Our solution is to have 2 blankets). And while it's only a teeny, tiny toe dip into the pond of married life -- I can't wait to experience more surreal and normal moments life throws at us.
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Bliss in Bali 🐠🌴 Spent a surreal week chasing waterfalls, visiting countless infinity pools, and making every hour happy hour.
Bliss in Bali 🐠🌴 Spent a surreal week chasing waterfalls, visiting countless infinity pools, and making every hour happy hour.
Bliss in Bali 🐠🌴 Spent a surreal week chasing waterfalls, visiting countless infinity pools, and making every hour happy hour.
Bliss in Bali 🐠🌴 Spent a surreal week chasing waterfalls, visiting countless infinity pools, and making every hour happy hour.
Bliss in Bali 🐠🌴 Spent a surreal week chasing waterfalls, visiting countless infinity pools, and making every hour happy hour.
Bliss in Bali 🐠🌴 Spent a surreal week chasing waterfalls, visiting countless infinity pools, and making every hour happy hour.
Bliss in Bali 🐠🌴 Spent a surreal week chasing waterfalls, visiting countless infinity pools, and making every hour happy hour.
Bliss in Bali 🐠🌴 Spent a surreal week chasing waterfalls, visiting countless infinity pools, and making every hour happy hour.
Bliss in Bali 🐠🌴 Spent a surreal week chasing waterfalls, visiting countless infinity pools, and making every hour happy hour.
Bliss in Bali 🐠🌴 Spent a surreal week chasing waterfalls, visiting countless infinity pools, and making every hour happy hour.
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The truth about impact 💥 My first step to writing for the internet (and eventually starting this business) was starting my blog in 2018. It felt very "ew cringe" at the time. But every week, I'd write personal essays about alll the feelings and wanting to be a Creative. The whole time, it felt like I was writing into a void with no one reading and no one taking me seriously. (And some weeks, I'd even let the self-doubt and lack of "views" stop me from publishing anything.) But I continued writing and building my body of work. Eventually, my first blog post landed me my first client... And sparked a chain of events that led to me starting my copywriting business full-time in 2020. Sharing this because when we first start creating or pivoting into something new... And it feels like we're gaining no views. No comments. No validation. And even losing parts of an existing audience... It's tempting to believe that what we're creating doesn't matter and we should give up. But earlier this year, I got an email from someone who stumbled on an old blog post then binge-read the rest. (Swipe to see*). The posts that I believed were reaching "no one" were actually finding their way to the screens of the people who needed to read them the most. If I'd let the self-doubt (and imaginary nay-sayers) stop me, I wouldn't have the business I have today. More importantly, my words would never have found their way to the people it was supposed to. I've said it before and I'll say it again (mostly to remind myself): 1) Your creations have impact - even if you can't always see it. 2) If you want to be a creative for the long-haul, you have to create. Even when the numbers fluctuate. Even when it feels like you're speaking into a void. Even when all the mud you're throwing at the wall just isn't sticking. Because you never know who will end up reading and passing your creations on to the next person who needs them. *shared with consent #freelancewriter #creativeentrepreneur #launchcopywriter #freelancingfemales #coursecreator #creativehobby #smallbusinessowner #entreprenuership #creatives #writersofig #onwriting #contentcreator
The truth about impact 💥 My first step to writing for the internet (and eventually starting this business) was starting my blog in 2018. It felt very "ew cringe" at the time. But every week, I'd write personal essays about alll the feelings and wanting to be a Creative. The whole time, it felt like I was writing into a void with no one reading and no one taking me seriously. (And some weeks, I'd even let the self-doubt and lack of "views" stop me from publishing anything.) But I continued writing and building my body of work. Eventually, my first blog post landed me my first client... And sparked a chain of events that led to me starting my copywriting business full-time in 2020. Sharing this because when we first start creating or pivoting into something new... And it feels like we're gaining no views. No comments. No validation. And even losing parts of an existing audience... It's tempting to believe that what we're creating doesn't matter and we should give up. But earlier this year, I got an email from someone who stumbled on an old blog post then binge-read the rest. (Swipe to see*). The posts that I believed were reaching "no one" were actually finding their way to the screens of the people who needed to read them the most. If I'd let the self-doubt (and imaginary nay-sayers) stop me, I wouldn't have the business I have today. More importantly, my words would never have found their way to the people it was supposed to. I've said it before and I'll say it again (mostly to remind myself): 1) Your creations have impact - even if you can't always see it. 2) If you want to be a creative for the long-haul, you have to create. Even when the numbers fluctuate. Even when it feels like you're speaking into a void. Even when all the mud you're throwing at the wall just isn't sticking. Because you never know who will end up reading and passing your creations on to the next person who needs them. *shared with consent #freelancewriter #creativeentrepreneur #launchcopywriter #freelancingfemales #coursecreator #creativehobby #smallbusinessowner #entreprenuership #creatives #writersofig #onwriting #contentcreator
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The truth about impact 💥 My first step to writing for the internet (and eventually starting this business) was starting my blog in 2018. It felt very "ew cringe" at the time. But every week, I'd write personal essays about alll the feelings and wanting to be a Creative. The whole time, it felt like I was writing into a void with no one reading and no one taking me seriously. (And some weeks, I'd even let the self-doubt and lack of "views" stop me from publishing anything.) But I continued writing and building my body of work. Eventually, my first blog post landed me my first client... And sparked a chain of events that led to me starting my copywriting business full-time in 2020. Sharing this because when we first start creating or pivoting into something new... And it feels like we're gaining no views. No comments. No validation. And even losing parts of an existing audience... It's tempting to believe that what we're creating doesn't matter and we should give up. But earlier this year, I got an email from someone who stumbled on an old blog post then binge-read the rest. (Swipe to see*). The posts that I believed were reaching "no one" were actually finding their way to the screens of the people who needed to read them the most. If I'd let the self-doubt (and imaginary nay-sayers) stop me, I wouldn't have the business I have today. More importantly, my words would never have found their way to the people it was supposed to. I've said it before and I'll say it again (mostly to remind myself): 1) Your creations have impact - even if you can't always see it. 2) If you want to be a creative for the long-haul, you have to create. Even when the numbers fluctuate. Even when it feels like you're speaking into a void. Even when all the mud you're throwing at the wall just isn't sticking. Because you never know who will end up reading and passing your creations on to the next person who needs them. *shared with consent #freelancewriter #creativeentrepreneur #launchcopywriter #freelancingfemales #coursecreator #creativehobby #smallbusinessowner #entreprenuership #creatives #writersofig #onwriting #contentcreator
2 weeks ago
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While it looks like I've got my snorkelling sh*t together -- not pictured is the literal sink-or-swim situation I found myself in 10 mins beforehand. On our first snorkelling stop - I found myself battered by the choppy waves, choking on mouthfuls of salt water, and forcing my cramping arms to paddle like my life depended on it (because it did). And I was ready to retreat to the safety of our hotel’s paddle pool.  But afterward, we went to a more serene snorkelling spot where the fish practically pose for selfies with you. There, I could rest. I had time to appreciate the coral and remember why I loved snorkelling so much. And I could even practice my duck dives! This wild snorkelling adventure got me thinking about what it's really like to be a business owner. I've spent the majority of my self-employed era diving into more sink-or-swim situations than I can count. From my first project, to my first launch, all the way to trying to find the right contractors to hire — I've had to dive head-first outta my comfort zone and into the deep-end, and then paddle vigorously to stay afloat. And I bet you have, too. Most of the time, it can feel like the tide is working against us. And when there’s no immediate lifeboat in sight, it can be tempting to throw up our arms and give up. But while getting out of our comfort zones is crucial for becoming a better business owner (after all, smooth seas don’t make skilled sailors) — I’m realising it’s ok to slink back to calmer waters every so often. To rest. To find the joy and remember what we love about business and why we got into it in the first place. So if you’ve been battling rough seas where it feels like the tide is always against you — don’t abandon ship just yet. Take it as a sign to drop anchor for a while, float on serene waters, an and rediscover why you started in the first place. Remember, every ebb has its flow. . . . . . . #freelancewriter #creativecopywriter #launchcopy #digitalproductlaunch #coursecreators #creativeentrepreneur #launchcopywriter #bali #snorkelling #onlinebusinessowner #businessadvice #freelancingadvice
While it looks like I've got my snorkelling sh*t together -- not pictured is the literal sink-or-swim situation I found myself in 10 mins beforehand. On our first snorkelling stop - I found myself battered by the choppy waves, choking on mouthfuls of salt water, and forcing my cramping arms to paddle like my life depended on it (because it did). And I was ready to retreat to the safety of our hotel’s paddle pool.  But afterward, we went to a more serene snorkelling spot where the fish practically pose for selfies with you. There, I could rest. I had time to appreciate the coral and remember why I loved snorkelling so much. And I could even practice my duck dives! This wild snorkelling adventure got me thinking about what it's really like to be a business owner. I've spent the majority of my self-employed era diving into more sink-or-swim situations than I can count. From my first project, to my first launch, all the way to trying to find the right contractors to hire — I've had to dive head-first outta my comfort zone and into the deep-end, and then paddle vigorously to stay afloat. And I bet you have, too. Most of the time, it can feel like the tide is working against us. And when there’s no immediate lifeboat in sight, it can be tempting to throw up our arms and give up. But while getting out of our comfort zones is crucial for becoming a better business owner (after all, smooth seas don’t make skilled sailors) — I’m realising it’s ok to slink back to calmer waters every so often. To rest. To find the joy and remember what we love about business and why we got into it in the first place. So if you’ve been battling rough seas where it feels like the tide is always against you — don’t abandon ship just yet. Take it as a sign to drop anchor for a while, float on serene waters, an and rediscover why you started in the first place. Remember, every ebb has its flow. . . . . . . #freelancewriter #creativecopywriter #launchcopy #digitalproductlaunch #coursecreators #creativeentrepreneur #launchcopywriter #bali #snorkelling #onlinebusinessowner #businessadvice #freelancingadvice
While it looks like I've got my snorkelling sh*t together -- not pictured is the literal sink-or-swim situation I found myself in 10 mins beforehand. On our first snorkelling stop - I found myself battered by the choppy waves, choking on mouthfuls of salt water, and forcing my cramping arms to paddle like my life depended on it (because it did). And I was ready to retreat to the safety of our hotel’s paddle pool.  But afterward, we went to a more serene snorkelling spot where the fish practically pose for selfies with you. There, I could rest. I had time to appreciate the coral and remember why I loved snorkelling so much. And I could even practice my duck dives! This wild snorkelling adventure got me thinking about what it's really like to be a business owner. I've spent the majority of my self-employed era diving into more sink-or-swim situations than I can count. From my first project, to my first launch, all the way to trying to find the right contractors to hire — I've had to dive head-first outta my comfort zone and into the deep-end, and then paddle vigorously to stay afloat. And I bet you have, too. Most of the time, it can feel like the tide is working against us. And when there’s no immediate lifeboat in sight, it can be tempting to throw up our arms and give up. But while getting out of our comfort zones is crucial for becoming a better business owner (after all, smooth seas don’t make skilled sailors) — I’m realising it’s ok to slink back to calmer waters every so often. To rest. To find the joy and remember what we love about business and why we got into it in the first place. So if you’ve been battling rough seas where it feels like the tide is always against you — don’t abandon ship just yet. Take it as a sign to drop anchor for a while, float on serene waters, an and rediscover why you started in the first place. Remember, every ebb has its flow. . . . . . . #freelancewriter #creativecopywriter #launchcopy #digitalproductlaunch #coursecreators #creativeentrepreneur #launchcopywriter #bali #snorkelling #onlinebusinessowner #businessadvice #freelancingadvice
While it looks like I've got my snorkelling sh*t together -- not pictured is the literal sink-or-swim situation I found myself in 10 mins beforehand. On our first snorkelling stop - I found myself battered by the choppy waves, choking on mouthfuls of salt water, and forcing my cramping arms to paddle like my life depended on it (because it did). And I was ready to retreat to the safety of our hotel’s paddle pool.  But afterward, we went to a more serene snorkelling spot where the fish practically pose for selfies with you. There, I could rest. I had time to appreciate the coral and remember why I loved snorkelling so much. And I could even practice my duck dives! This wild snorkelling adventure got me thinking about what it's really like to be a business owner. I've spent the majority of my self-employed era diving into more sink-or-swim situations than I can count. From my first project, to my first launch, all the way to trying to find the right contractors to hire — I've had to dive head-first outta my comfort zone and into the deep-end, and then paddle vigorously to stay afloat. And I bet you have, too. Most of the time, it can feel like the tide is working against us. And when there’s no immediate lifeboat in sight, it can be tempting to throw up our arms and give up. But while getting out of our comfort zones is crucial for becoming a better business owner (after all, smooth seas don’t make skilled sailors) — I’m realising it’s ok to slink back to calmer waters every so often. To rest. To find the joy and remember what we love about business and why we got into it in the first place. So if you’ve been battling rough seas where it feels like the tide is always against you — don’t abandon ship just yet. Take it as a sign to drop anchor for a while, float on serene waters, an and rediscover why you started in the first place. Remember, every ebb has its flow. . . . . . . #freelancewriter #creativecopywriter #launchcopy #digitalproductlaunch #coursecreators #creativeentrepreneur #launchcopywriter #bali #snorkelling #onlinebusinessowner #businessadvice #freelancingadvice
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While it looks like I've got my snorkelling sh*t together -- not pictured is the literal sink-or-swim situation I found myself in 10 mins beforehand. On our first snorkelling stop - I found myself battered by the choppy waves, choking on mouthfuls of salt water, and forcing my cramping arms to paddle like my life depended on it (because it did). And I was ready to retreat to the safety of our hotel’s paddle pool.  But afterward, we went to a more serene snorkelling spot where the fish practically pose for selfies with you. There, I could rest. I had time to appreciate the coral and remember why I loved snorkelling so much. And I could even practice my duck dives! This wild snorkelling adventure got me thinking about what it's really like to be a business owner. I've spent the majority of my self-employed era diving into more sink-or-swim situations than I can count. From my first project, to my first launch, all the way to trying to find the right contractors to hire — I've had to dive head-first outta my comfort zone and into the deep-end, and then paddle vigorously to stay afloat. And I bet you have, too. Most of the time, it can feel like the tide is working against us. And when there’s no immediate lifeboat in sight, it can be tempting to throw up our arms and give up. But while getting out of our comfort zones is crucial for becoming a better business owner (after all, smooth seas don’t make skilled sailors) — I’m realising it’s ok to slink back to calmer waters every so often. To rest. To find the joy and remember what we love about business and why we got into it in the first place. So if you’ve been battling rough seas where it feels like the tide is always against you — don’t abandon ship just yet. Take it as a sign to drop anchor for a while, float on serene waters, an and rediscover why you started in the first place. Remember, every ebb has its flow. . . . . . . #freelancewriter #creativecopywriter #launchcopy #digitalproductlaunch #coursecreators #creativeentrepreneur #launchcopywriter #bali #snorkelling #onlinebusinessowner #businessadvice #freelancingadvice
1 month ago
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Celebrating 6 months of married life with my partner in crime ❤ When people ask me what married life is like, I say: "It feels both utterly surreal and completely normal all at the same time." Surreal because I'm amazed at all the events that led us here. And normal because it feels like Ben has always been by my side. The past 6 months have been filled with new discoveries about each other's quirks. Escaping on many holidays. Binge watching tv shows in one night. Arguments over dishes, laundry, and who hogs the blanket the most. (PS. Our solution is to have 2 blankets). And while it's only a teeny, tiny toe dip into the pond of married life -- I can't wait to experience more surreal and normal moments life throws at us.
Celebrating 6 months of married life with my partner in crime ❤ When people ask me what married life is like, I say: "It feels both utterly surreal and completely normal all at the same time." Surreal because I'm amazed at all the events that led us here. And normal because it feels like Ben has always been by my side. The past 6 months have been filled with new discoveries about each other's quirks. Escaping on many holidays. Binge watching tv shows in one night. Arguments over dishes, laundry, and who hogs the blanket the most. (PS. Our solution is to have 2 blankets). And while it's only a teeny, tiny toe dip into the pond of married life -- I can't wait to experience more surreal and normal moments life throws at us.
Celebrating 6 months of married life with my partner in crime ❤ When people ask me what married life is like, I say: "It feels both utterly surreal and completely normal all at the same time." Surreal because I'm amazed at all the events that led us here. And normal because it feels like Ben has always been by my side. The past 6 months have been filled with new discoveries about each other's quirks. Escaping on many holidays. Binge watching tv shows in one night. Arguments over dishes, laundry, and who hogs the blanket the most. (PS. Our solution is to have 2 blankets). And while it's only a teeny, tiny toe dip into the pond of married life -- I can't wait to experience more surreal and normal moments life throws at us.
Celebrating 6 months of married life with my partner in crime ❤ When people ask me what married life is like, I say: "It feels both utterly surreal and completely normal all at the same time." Surreal because I'm amazed at all the events that led us here. And normal because it feels like Ben has always been by my side. The past 6 months have been filled with new discoveries about each other's quirks. Escaping on many holidays. Binge watching tv shows in one night. Arguments over dishes, laundry, and who hogs the blanket the most. (PS. Our solution is to have 2 blankets). And while it's only a teeny, tiny toe dip into the pond of married life -- I can't wait to experience more surreal and normal moments life throws at us.
Celebrating 6 months of married life with my partner in crime ❤ When people ask me what married life is like, I say: "It feels both utterly surreal and completely normal all at the same time." Surreal because I'm amazed at all the events that led us here. And normal because it feels like Ben has always been by my side. The past 6 months have been filled with new discoveries about each other's quirks. Escaping on many holidays. Binge watching tv shows in one night. Arguments over dishes, laundry, and who hogs the blanket the most. (PS. Our solution is to have 2 blankets). And while it's only a teeny, tiny toe dip into the pond of married life -- I can't wait to experience more surreal and normal moments life throws at us.
Celebrating 6 months of married life with my partner in crime ❤ When people ask me what married life is like, I say: "It feels both utterly surreal and completely normal all at the same time." Surreal because I'm amazed at all the events that led us here. And normal because it feels like Ben has always been by my side. The past 6 months have been filled with new discoveries about each other's quirks. Escaping on many holidays. Binge watching tv shows in one night. Arguments over dishes, laundry, and who hogs the blanket the most. (PS. Our solution is to have 2 blankets). And while it's only a teeny, tiny toe dip into the pond of married life -- I can't wait to experience more surreal and normal moments life throws at us.
Celebrating 6 months of married life with my partner in crime ❤ When people ask me what married life is like, I say: "It feels both utterly surreal and completely normal all at the same time." Surreal because I'm amazed at all the events that led us here. And normal because it feels like Ben has always been by my side. The past 6 months have been filled with new discoveries about each other's quirks. Escaping on many holidays. Binge watching tv shows in one night. Arguments over dishes, laundry, and who hogs the blanket the most. (PS. Our solution is to have 2 blankets). And while it's only a teeny, tiny toe dip into the pond of married life -- I can't wait to experience more surreal and normal moments life throws at us.
Celebrating 6 months of married life with my partner in crime ❤ When people ask me what married life is like, I say: "It feels both utterly surreal and completely normal all at the same time." Surreal because I'm amazed at all the events that led us here. And normal because it feels like Ben has always been by my side. The past 6 months have been filled with new discoveries about each other's quirks. Escaping on many holidays. Binge watching tv shows in one night. Arguments over dishes, laundry, and who hogs the blanket the most. (PS. Our solution is to have 2 blankets). And while it's only a teeny, tiny toe dip into the pond of married life -- I can't wait to experience more surreal and normal moments life throws at us.
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Celebrating 6 months of married life with my partner in crime ❤ When people ask me what married life is like, I say: "It feels both utterly surreal and completely normal all at the same time." Surreal because I'm amazed at all the events that led us here. And normal because it feels like Ben has always been by my side. The past 6 months have been filled with new discoveries about each other's quirks. Escaping on many holidays. Binge watching tv shows in one night. Arguments over dishes, laundry, and who hogs the blanket the most. (PS. Our solution is to have 2 blankets). And while it's only a teeny, tiny toe dip into the pond of married life -- I can't wait to experience more surreal and normal moments life throws at us.
1 month ago
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Bliss in Bali 🐠🌴 Spent a surreal week chasing waterfalls, visiting countless infinity pools, and making every hour happy hour.
Bliss in Bali 🐠🌴 Spent a surreal week chasing waterfalls, visiting countless infinity pools, and making every hour happy hour.
Bliss in Bali 🐠🌴 Spent a surreal week chasing waterfalls, visiting countless infinity pools, and making every hour happy hour.
Bliss in Bali 🐠🌴 Spent a surreal week chasing waterfalls, visiting countless infinity pools, and making every hour happy hour.
Bliss in Bali 🐠🌴 Spent a surreal week chasing waterfalls, visiting countless infinity pools, and making every hour happy hour.
Bliss in Bali 🐠🌴 Spent a surreal week chasing waterfalls, visiting countless infinity pools, and making every hour happy hour.
Bliss in Bali 🐠🌴 Spent a surreal week chasing waterfalls, visiting countless infinity pools, and making every hour happy hour.
Bliss in Bali 🐠🌴 Spent a surreal week chasing waterfalls, visiting countless infinity pools, and making every hour happy hour.
Bliss in Bali 🐠🌴 Spent a surreal week chasing waterfalls, visiting countless infinity pools, and making every hour happy hour.
Bliss in Bali 🐠🌴 Spent a surreal week chasing waterfalls, visiting countless infinity pools, and making every hour happy hour.
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Bliss in Bali 🐠🌴 Spent a surreal week chasing waterfalls, visiting countless infinity pools, and making every hour happy hour.
2 months ago
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When I first started my business, I used to be so scared of selling. Which is kinda ironic because as a launch copywriter who's really good at helping others sell their courses, you'd think I'd be good at this too. But for a long time, I would curl up into a ball and hide. I didn't want to be annoying or alienate my audience. So I'd try to do it as subtly as possible and hoping that *one* caption would somehow convince someone to buy from me. But because I wasn't marketing or selling... I wasn't getting as many clients… Which meant I didn't get the revenue I wanted… Which meant I spent more time worrying about how to make money instead of focusing on what I *really* wanted to do - which was to make an impact. But then I heard this mindset shift that really helped me: Selling, when done ethically, isn’t bad. Selling is just a conversation between you and your prospect. It's all about empathising with the challenges they're facing and laying out the reasons why your course or product will help them. Because think about it: If you knew you had an amazing product that you *know* is going to transform someone's life for the better - why would you hoard it and keep it all to yourself? So if you've been scared to sell your courses or services, remember that selling isn't bad. It's about having empathy-driven conversations and getting your solution in front of more of the right people so you can change their life for the better. And if you've been wondering how to translate those conversations^ into your launch assets and sell in a way that doesn't give you the ick... My launch packages are all about pinpointing exactly what your audience needs to hear, identifying the best stories you should share, and creating empathy-driven sales assets that make your audience understand why you're worth buying from. Now booking for August. Link in bio. . . . . . . #freelancewriter #creativecopywriter #launchcopy #digitalproductlaunch #coursecreators #creativeentrepreneur #launchcopywriter #creativepreneur #evergreenlaunch #livelaunch #launchemails #businesschicks #salespage #launchcopywriter #womanownedbusiness #freelancingfemales
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When I first started my business, I used to be so scared of selling. Which is kinda ironic because as a launch copywriter who's really good at helping others sell their courses, you'd think I'd be good at this too. But for a long time, I would curl up into a ball and hide. I didn't want to be annoying or alienate my audience. So I'd try to do it as subtly as possible and hoping that *one* caption would somehow convince someone to buy from me. But because I wasn't marketing or selling... I wasn't getting as many clients… Which meant I didn't get the revenue I wanted… Which meant I spent more time worrying about how to make money instead of focusing on what I *really* wanted to do - which was to make an impact. But then I heard this mindset shift that really helped me: Selling, when done ethically, isn’t bad. Selling is just a conversation between you and your prospect. It's all about empathising with the challenges they're facing and laying out the reasons why your course or product will help them. Because think about it: If you knew you had an amazing product that you *know* is going to transform someone's life for the better - why would you hoard it and keep it all to yourself? So if you've been scared to sell your courses or services, remember that selling isn't bad. It's about having empathy-driven conversations and getting your solution in front of more of the right people so you can change their life for the better. And if you've been wondering how to translate those conversations^ into your launch assets and sell in a way that doesn't give you the ick... My launch packages are all about pinpointing exactly what your audience needs to hear, identifying the best stories you should share, and creating empathy-driven sales assets that make your audience understand why you're worth buying from. Now booking for August. Link in bio. . . . . . . #freelancewriter #creativecopywriter #launchcopy #digitalproductlaunch #coursecreators #creativeentrepreneur #launchcopywriter #creativepreneur #evergreenlaunch #livelaunch #launchemails #businesschicks #salespage #launchcopywriter #womanownedbusiness #freelancingfemales
3 months ago
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