Discovering your identity
You may never hear the words “I’m sorry” from the person that hurt you. But maybe hearing it from me is the push you need to start your healing process.
In the last 2 years, here’s what I’ve learnt about ‘not being good enough.’
Irrespective of who does or doesn’t show up for you, you’re worth celebrating. Every inch of you is worth breaking out the confetti and silly string for.
Closure is not a destination to be reached, it’s a habit. Just like how love is a daily decision to choose the other person, closure is an action we must rinse and repeat, like eating our vitamins daily or going to the gym.
It’s a thought that creeps slowly into your mind when you’re struggling to fall asleep after a bad day. It’s an innocent question that can rapidly spiral out of control: are there good things ahead?
Here’s what I know about the comparison game: there are no winners. While you’re comparing yourself to that writer, they’re probably comparing themselves to someone else. The result is two individuals who feel deflated and less-than.
Nostalgia is like those filters on Snapchat that gives you flawless skin and makes you look lit from within; a picture of perfection you wish you could emulate every day.
You’ll miss out on all the magic people and places have to offer if you always run away when fear comes around. And trust me, fear will always come around.
Comparison is not something you conquer. It’s something you continuously acknowledge. We must intentionally uproot the lies every time it strikes our most vulnerable areas.
You may never hear the words I’m sorry from the person that hurt you, but maybe just hearing it from someone else is the push you need to start your healing process.
Loneliness, like the majority of other emotions, is transient. Although it may feel like days, months, or god forbid, years, before it finally dissipates - it always does.
Self-Belief isn’t a nicotine patch that you slap on once and expect to be cured from the addiction to your deprecating thoughts. It’s a day by day thing.
The problem with always looking up at the sky and waiting for the fireworks is that you miss out on what’s right in front of you.
Don’t get me wrong, if you have a carefully curated life plan that is working completely for you, then you’re kinda my hero. But for now, I think I’m going to try letting spontaneity take the wheel and see where it takes me.