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15 Aug 2018
Mental Health

Mind Your Business

“You need to mind your own business,” she told me.

Not the words you want to hear while in the throes of another heartache, but necessary words nonetheless.

It’s 2018 and everything you ever need to know is accessible in the palm of your hand. You can track in real time exactly what your friends are getting up to tonight. You can instantly look up the fact that there are more stars in the skies than particles of sand, just to win an argument. You can even get Pad Thai and a date to share it with, delivered to your doorstep in just two swipes.

I’m guilty of spending hours lying in bed, scrolling on my phone and checking out the highlights of other people’s lives. I justify it by saying I just want to see how the other half live. The ones who are inspiring me to chase my dreams. To watch the friends I’ve made on the other side of the world, kick ass.

But what happens when I scroll pass something I don’t want to know about?

A change in relationship status

A new job update

A tagged meme I wasn’t included in

A party I’ve missed out on

I can get very easily bogged down after an intense scrolling session or when I’ve lurked on a profile for too long. Especially when FOMO hits and I find out news that rubs me the wrong way or leaves a sick feeling in my stomach.

And so, on this particular Friday night when I should have been capitalising on my 20s and making questionable decisions, I found myself curled up in the foetus position on her bed having yet another existential crisis. Friends who let you rock up at their house at odd hours of the night, and open up their bed or couch to you, are solid gold. I have spent many evenings diving into people’s passenger seats, knocking on doors, and camping out on kitchen floors, all so they can give me the tough but necessary advice. These are the people to hold close and do life with.

As I lay sulking under the dim glow of her fairy lights, she schooled me in the art of minding my own business.

What other people are doing should be of no concern to you. What he is doing with her is not a story-line you need to care about unless you’re invited to play a part in their drama.

“Stop jumping to conclusions,” she stated bluntly. “What you see and hear online is only half the story.”

I pulled her blankets over my head and sulked even more.

“Every time you start to get upset, remind yourself it’s none of your business,” she nudged me. “This is not burying your head in the sand. It’s an intentional redirection of where you focus your energy and thoughts.”

The truth is, she’s right. I’m guilty of investing in the lives of others more than I invest in my own. It’s easier to show off my life on a screen than show up and do the messy but necessary work in reality. We watch and scroll and care so much about what other people are doing, we miss out on the magic that’s happening right in front of us. And of course, we want others to see the highlights in our life as well. So we play the game. We snap, we caption, we vlog. This is not a social media bash – and you should definitely instastory any moment where you’re feeling and looking great. But some moments just shouldn’t be for the public.

I had the privilege of hanging out with someone especially great the other week. It went the way you’d want any night with a ‘potential’ to go- pizza, ice cream, and your Pastor dining at the table next to yours. Awkward. Afterwards, we sat in the car with music blaring, city lights sparkling, and basked in a reassuring silence that could only accompany two people who were absolutely comfortable with one another. In that moment, I didn’t care what anyone else was doing. All I wanted was to savour the moment and never have it end. It was such a rare and sweet occasion that my fingers itched to capture it and have something tangible to remember it by. But as I reached for my phone, I felt a nudge telling me ‘Don’t document this. This moment is yours and his. No one else’s. Some things just need to stay sacred.’

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Like I said, this isn’t a social media bash. The Internet has brought some beautiful things and people into my life and I wouldn’t be the person I am today without it. But if we’re always basing our feelings and jumping to conclusions based off the highlight reel and 10 second stories people put up, we run the risk of neglecting all the amazing things we’ve achieved in our own lives.

So for anyone who has ever felt crap because the rest of the world is ahead, let me pass on this pep talk to you.

It’s none of your business how far ahead other people are

None of your business that they’re now asking someone else out instead of you

None of your business they’re in a top-tier company and you’re not

None of your business that they’re further along in their career than you are

Quit watching and just do you.

Anxiety loves taking any tidbit of information you feed it and running with it until it’s crafted a story where you’re the victim.

So stop feeding it. Realise that life online is curated and only two dimensional. It’s rarely the full story, and it’s none of your business. Learn from people, yes. Be inspired by them for sure. But don’t lurk on profiles if you’re just going to beat yourself up for all the ways you’re not like them.

You could spend hours swiping through other people’s stories instead of putting the work into building your own. You could spend your whole life following other people’s lives. Or you could just devote your energy to living your own life- unafraid and uninhibited.

Mind your business

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Celebrating 6 months of married life with my partner in crime ❤ When people ask me what married life is like, I say: "It feels both utterly surreal and completely normal all at the same time." Surreal because I'm amazed at all the events that led us here. And normal because it feels like Ben has always been by my side. The past 6 months have been filled with new discoveries about each other's quirks. Escaping on many holidays. Binge watching tv shows in one night. Arguments over dishes, laundry, and who hogs the blanket the most. (PS. Our solution is to have 2 blankets). And while it's only a teeny, tiny toe dip into the pond of married life -- I can't wait to experience more surreal and normal moments life throws at us.
Celebrating 6 months of married life with my partner in crime ❤ When people ask me what married life is like, I say: "It feels both utterly surreal and completely normal all at the same time." Surreal because I'm amazed at all the events that led us here. And normal because it feels like Ben has always been by my side. The past 6 months have been filled with new discoveries about each other's quirks. Escaping on many holidays. Binge watching tv shows in one night. Arguments over dishes, laundry, and who hogs the blanket the most. (PS. Our solution is to have 2 blankets). And while it's only a teeny, tiny toe dip into the pond of married life -- I can't wait to experience more surreal and normal moments life throws at us.
Celebrating 6 months of married life with my partner in crime ❤ When people ask me what married life is like, I say: "It feels both utterly surreal and completely normal all at the same time." Surreal because I'm amazed at all the events that led us here. And normal because it feels like Ben has always been by my side. The past 6 months have been filled with new discoveries about each other's quirks. Escaping on many holidays. Binge watching tv shows in one night. Arguments over dishes, laundry, and who hogs the blanket the most. (PS. Our solution is to have 2 blankets). And while it's only a teeny, tiny toe dip into the pond of married life -- I can't wait to experience more surreal and normal moments life throws at us.
Celebrating 6 months of married life with my partner in crime ❤ When people ask me what married life is like, I say: "It feels both utterly surreal and completely normal all at the same time." Surreal because I'm amazed at all the events that led us here. And normal because it feels like Ben has always been by my side. The past 6 months have been filled with new discoveries about each other's quirks. Escaping on many holidays. Binge watching tv shows in one night. Arguments over dishes, laundry, and who hogs the blanket the most. (PS. Our solution is to have 2 blankets). And while it's only a teeny, tiny toe dip into the pond of married life -- I can't wait to experience more surreal and normal moments life throws at us.
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Celebrating 6 months of married life with my partner in crime ❤ When people ask me what married life is like, I say: "It feels both utterly surreal and completely normal all at the same time." Surreal because I'm amazed at all the events that led us here. And normal because it feels like Ben has always been by my side. The past 6 months have been filled with new discoveries about each other's quirks. Escaping on many holidays. Binge watching tv shows in one night. Arguments over dishes, laundry, and who hogs the blanket the most. (PS. Our solution is to have 2 blankets). And while it's only a teeny, tiny toe dip into the pond of married life -- I can't wait to experience more surreal and normal moments life throws at us.
Celebrating 6 months of married life with my partner in crime ❤ When people ask me what married life is like, I say: "It feels both utterly surreal and completely normal all at the same time." Surreal because I'm amazed at all the events that led us here. And normal because it feels like Ben has always been by my side. The past 6 months have been filled with new discoveries about each other's quirks. Escaping on many holidays. Binge watching tv shows in one night. Arguments over dishes, laundry, and who hogs the blanket the most. (PS. Our solution is to have 2 blankets). And while it's only a teeny, tiny toe dip into the pond of married life -- I can't wait to experience more surreal and normal moments life throws at us.
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Bliss in Bali 🐠🌴 Spent a surreal week chasing waterfalls, visiting countless infinity pools, and making every hour happy hour.
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The truth about impact 💥 My first step to writing for the internet (and eventually starting this business) was starting my blog in 2018. It felt very "ew cringe" at the time. But every week, I'd write personal essays about alll the feelings and wanting to be a Creative. The whole time, it felt like I was writing into a void with no one reading and no one taking me seriously. (And some weeks, I'd even let the self-doubt and lack of "views" stop me from publishing anything.) But I continued writing and building my body of work. Eventually, my first blog post landed me my first client... And sparked a chain of events that led to me starting my copywriting business full-time in 2020. Sharing this because when we first start creating or pivoting into something new... And it feels like we're gaining no views. No comments. No validation. And even losing parts of an existing audience... It's tempting to believe that what we're creating doesn't matter and we should give up. But earlier this year, I got an email from someone who stumbled on an old blog post then binge-read the rest. (Swipe to see*). The posts that I believed were reaching "no one" were actually finding their way to the screens of the people who needed to read them the most. If I'd let the self-doubt (and imaginary nay-sayers) stop me, I wouldn't have the business I have today. More importantly, my words would never have found their way to the people it was supposed to. I've said it before and I'll say it again (mostly to remind myself): 1) Your creations have impact - even if you can't always see it. 2) If you want to be a creative for the long-haul, you have to create. Even when the numbers fluctuate. Even when it feels like you're speaking into a void. Even when all the mud you're throwing at the wall just isn't sticking. Because you never know who will end up reading and passing your creations on to the next person who needs them. *shared with consent #freelancewriter #creativeentrepreneur #launchcopywriter #freelancingfemales #coursecreator #creativehobby #smallbusinessowner #entreprenuership #creatives #writersofig #onwriting #contentcreator
The truth about impact 💥 My first step to writing for the internet (and eventually starting this business) was starting my blog in 2018. It felt very "ew cringe" at the time. But every week, I'd write personal essays about alll the feelings and wanting to be a Creative. The whole time, it felt like I was writing into a void with no one reading and no one taking me seriously. (And some weeks, I'd even let the self-doubt and lack of "views" stop me from publishing anything.) But I continued writing and building my body of work. Eventually, my first blog post landed me my first client... And sparked a chain of events that led to me starting my copywriting business full-time in 2020. Sharing this because when we first start creating or pivoting into something new... And it feels like we're gaining no views. No comments. No validation. And even losing parts of an existing audience... It's tempting to believe that what we're creating doesn't matter and we should give up. But earlier this year, I got an email from someone who stumbled on an old blog post then binge-read the rest. (Swipe to see*). The posts that I believed were reaching "no one" were actually finding their way to the screens of the people who needed to read them the most. If I'd let the self-doubt (and imaginary nay-sayers) stop me, I wouldn't have the business I have today. More importantly, my words would never have found their way to the people it was supposed to. I've said it before and I'll say it again (mostly to remind myself): 1) Your creations have impact - even if you can't always see it. 2) If you want to be a creative for the long-haul, you have to create. Even when the numbers fluctuate. Even when it feels like you're speaking into a void. Even when all the mud you're throwing at the wall just isn't sticking. Because you never know who will end up reading and passing your creations on to the next person who needs them. *shared with consent #freelancewriter #creativeentrepreneur #launchcopywriter #freelancingfemales #coursecreator #creativehobby #smallbusinessowner #entreprenuership #creatives #writersofig #onwriting #contentcreator
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The truth about impact 💥 My first step to writing for the internet (and eventually starting this business) was starting my blog in 2018. It felt very "ew cringe" at the time. But every week, I'd write personal essays about alll the feelings and wanting to be a Creative. The whole time, it felt like I was writing into a void with no one reading and no one taking me seriously. (And some weeks, I'd even let the self-doubt and lack of "views" stop me from publishing anything.) But I continued writing and building my body of work. Eventually, my first blog post landed me my first client... And sparked a chain of events that led to me starting my copywriting business full-time in 2020. Sharing this because when we first start creating or pivoting into something new... And it feels like we're gaining no views. No comments. No validation. And even losing parts of an existing audience... It's tempting to believe that what we're creating doesn't matter and we should give up. But earlier this year, I got an email from someone who stumbled on an old blog post then binge-read the rest. (Swipe to see*). The posts that I believed were reaching "no one" were actually finding their way to the screens of the people who needed to read them the most. If I'd let the self-doubt (and imaginary nay-sayers) stop me, I wouldn't have the business I have today. More importantly, my words would never have found their way to the people it was supposed to. I've said it before and I'll say it again (mostly to remind myself): 1) Your creations have impact - even if you can't always see it. 2) If you want to be a creative for the long-haul, you have to create. Even when the numbers fluctuate. Even when it feels like you're speaking into a void. Even when all the mud you're throwing at the wall just isn't sticking. Because you never know who will end up reading and passing your creations on to the next person who needs them. *shared with consent #freelancewriter #creativeentrepreneur #launchcopywriter #freelancingfemales #coursecreator #creativehobby #smallbusinessowner #entreprenuership #creatives #writersofig #onwriting #contentcreator
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While it looks like I've got my snorkelling sh*t together -- not pictured is the literal sink-or-swim situation I found myself in 10 mins beforehand. On our first snorkelling stop - I found myself battered by the choppy waves, choking on mouthfuls of salt water, and forcing my cramping arms to paddle like my life depended on it (because it did). And I was ready to retreat to the safety of our hotel’s paddle pool.  But afterward, we went to a more serene snorkelling spot where the fish practically pose for selfies with you. There, I could rest. I had time to appreciate the coral and remember why I loved snorkelling so much. And I could even practice my duck dives! This wild snorkelling adventure got me thinking about what it's really like to be a business owner. I've spent the majority of my self-employed era diving into more sink-or-swim situations than I can count. From my first project, to my first launch, all the way to trying to find the right contractors to hire — I've had to dive head-first outta my comfort zone and into the deep-end, and then paddle vigorously to stay afloat. And I bet you have, too. Most of the time, it can feel like the tide is working against us. And when there’s no immediate lifeboat in sight, it can be tempting to throw up our arms and give up. But while getting out of our comfort zones is crucial for becoming a better business owner (after all, smooth seas don’t make skilled sailors) — I’m realising it’s ok to slink back to calmer waters every so often. To rest. To find the joy and remember what we love about business and why we got into it in the first place. So if you’ve been battling rough seas where it feels like the tide is always against you — don’t abandon ship just yet. Take it as a sign to drop anchor for a while, float on serene waters, an and rediscover why you started in the first place. Remember, every ebb has its flow. . . . . . . #freelancewriter #creativecopywriter #launchcopy #digitalproductlaunch #coursecreators #creativeentrepreneur #launchcopywriter #bali #snorkelling #onlinebusinessowner #businessadvice #freelancingadvice
While it looks like I've got my snorkelling sh*t together -- not pictured is the literal sink-or-swim situation I found myself in 10 mins beforehand. On our first snorkelling stop - I found myself battered by the choppy waves, choking on mouthfuls of salt water, and forcing my cramping arms to paddle like my life depended on it (because it did). And I was ready to retreat to the safety of our hotel’s paddle pool.  But afterward, we went to a more serene snorkelling spot where the fish practically pose for selfies with you. There, I could rest. I had time to appreciate the coral and remember why I loved snorkelling so much. And I could even practice my duck dives! This wild snorkelling adventure got me thinking about what it's really like to be a business owner. I've spent the majority of my self-employed era diving into more sink-or-swim situations than I can count. From my first project, to my first launch, all the way to trying to find the right contractors to hire — I've had to dive head-first outta my comfort zone and into the deep-end, and then paddle vigorously to stay afloat. And I bet you have, too. Most of the time, it can feel like the tide is working against us. And when there’s no immediate lifeboat in sight, it can be tempting to throw up our arms and give up. But while getting out of our comfort zones is crucial for becoming a better business owner (after all, smooth seas don’t make skilled sailors) — I’m realising it’s ok to slink back to calmer waters every so often. To rest. To find the joy and remember what we love about business and why we got into it in the first place. So if you’ve been battling rough seas where it feels like the tide is always against you — don’t abandon ship just yet. Take it as a sign to drop anchor for a while, float on serene waters, an and rediscover why you started in the first place. Remember, every ebb has its flow. . . . . . . #freelancewriter #creativecopywriter #launchcopy #digitalproductlaunch #coursecreators #creativeentrepreneur #launchcopywriter #bali #snorkelling #onlinebusinessowner #businessadvice #freelancingadvice
While it looks like I've got my snorkelling sh*t together -- not pictured is the literal sink-or-swim situation I found myself in 10 mins beforehand. On our first snorkelling stop - I found myself battered by the choppy waves, choking on mouthfuls of salt water, and forcing my cramping arms to paddle like my life depended on it (because it did). And I was ready to retreat to the safety of our hotel’s paddle pool.  But afterward, we went to a more serene snorkelling spot where the fish practically pose for selfies with you. There, I could rest. I had time to appreciate the coral and remember why I loved snorkelling so much. And I could even practice my duck dives! This wild snorkelling adventure got me thinking about what it's really like to be a business owner. I've spent the majority of my self-employed era diving into more sink-or-swim situations than I can count. From my first project, to my first launch, all the way to trying to find the right contractors to hire — I've had to dive head-first outta my comfort zone and into the deep-end, and then paddle vigorously to stay afloat. And I bet you have, too. Most of the time, it can feel like the tide is working against us. And when there’s no immediate lifeboat in sight, it can be tempting to throw up our arms and give up. But while getting out of our comfort zones is crucial for becoming a better business owner (after all, smooth seas don’t make skilled sailors) — I’m realising it’s ok to slink back to calmer waters every so often. To rest. To find the joy and remember what we love about business and why we got into it in the first place. So if you’ve been battling rough seas where it feels like the tide is always against you — don’t abandon ship just yet. Take it as a sign to drop anchor for a while, float on serene waters, an and rediscover why you started in the first place. Remember, every ebb has its flow. . . . . . . #freelancewriter #creativecopywriter #launchcopy #digitalproductlaunch #coursecreators #creativeentrepreneur #launchcopywriter #bali #snorkelling #onlinebusinessowner #businessadvice #freelancingadvice
While it looks like I've got my snorkelling sh*t together -- not pictured is the literal sink-or-swim situation I found myself in 10 mins beforehand. On our first snorkelling stop - I found myself battered by the choppy waves, choking on mouthfuls of salt water, and forcing my cramping arms to paddle like my life depended on it (because it did). And I was ready to retreat to the safety of our hotel’s paddle pool.  But afterward, we went to a more serene snorkelling spot where the fish practically pose for selfies with you. There, I could rest. I had time to appreciate the coral and remember why I loved snorkelling so much. And I could even practice my duck dives! This wild snorkelling adventure got me thinking about what it's really like to be a business owner. I've spent the majority of my self-employed era diving into more sink-or-swim situations than I can count. From my first project, to my first launch, all the way to trying to find the right contractors to hire — I've had to dive head-first outta my comfort zone and into the deep-end, and then paddle vigorously to stay afloat. And I bet you have, too. Most of the time, it can feel like the tide is working against us. And when there’s no immediate lifeboat in sight, it can be tempting to throw up our arms and give up. But while getting out of our comfort zones is crucial for becoming a better business owner (after all, smooth seas don’t make skilled sailors) — I’m realising it’s ok to slink back to calmer waters every so often. To rest. To find the joy and remember what we love about business and why we got into it in the first place. So if you’ve been battling rough seas where it feels like the tide is always against you — don’t abandon ship just yet. Take it as a sign to drop anchor for a while, float on serene waters, an and rediscover why you started in the first place. Remember, every ebb has its flow. . . . . . . #freelancewriter #creativecopywriter #launchcopy #digitalproductlaunch #coursecreators #creativeentrepreneur #launchcopywriter #bali #snorkelling #onlinebusinessowner #businessadvice #freelancingadvice
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While it looks like I've got my snorkelling sh*t together -- not pictured is the literal sink-or-swim situation I found myself in 10 mins beforehand. On our first snorkelling stop - I found myself battered by the choppy waves, choking on mouthfuls of salt water, and forcing my cramping arms to paddle like my life depended on it (because it did). And I was ready to retreat to the safety of our hotel’s paddle pool.  But afterward, we went to a more serene snorkelling spot where the fish practically pose for selfies with you. There, I could rest. I had time to appreciate the coral and remember why I loved snorkelling so much. And I could even practice my duck dives! This wild snorkelling adventure got me thinking about what it's really like to be a business owner. I've spent the majority of my self-employed era diving into more sink-or-swim situations than I can count. From my first project, to my first launch, all the way to trying to find the right contractors to hire — I've had to dive head-first outta my comfort zone and into the deep-end, and then paddle vigorously to stay afloat. And I bet you have, too. Most of the time, it can feel like the tide is working against us. And when there’s no immediate lifeboat in sight, it can be tempting to throw up our arms and give up. But while getting out of our comfort zones is crucial for becoming a better business owner (after all, smooth seas don’t make skilled sailors) — I’m realising it’s ok to slink back to calmer waters every so often. To rest. To find the joy and remember what we love about business and why we got into it in the first place. So if you’ve been battling rough seas where it feels like the tide is always against you — don’t abandon ship just yet. Take it as a sign to drop anchor for a while, float on serene waters, an and rediscover why you started in the first place. Remember, every ebb has its flow. . . . . . . #freelancewriter #creativecopywriter #launchcopy #digitalproductlaunch #coursecreators #creativeentrepreneur #launchcopywriter #bali #snorkelling #onlinebusinessowner #businessadvice #freelancingadvice
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Celebrating 6 months of married life with my partner in crime ❤ When people ask me what married life is like, I say: "It feels both utterly surreal and completely normal all at the same time." Surreal because I'm amazed at all the events that led us here. And normal because it feels like Ben has always been by my side. The past 6 months have been filled with new discoveries about each other's quirks. Escaping on many holidays. Binge watching tv shows in one night. Arguments over dishes, laundry, and who hogs the blanket the most. (PS. Our solution is to have 2 blankets). And while it's only a teeny, tiny toe dip into the pond of married life -- I can't wait to experience more surreal and normal moments life throws at us.
Celebrating 6 months of married life with my partner in crime ❤ When people ask me what married life is like, I say: "It feels both utterly surreal and completely normal all at the same time." Surreal because I'm amazed at all the events that led us here. And normal because it feels like Ben has always been by my side. The past 6 months have been filled with new discoveries about each other's quirks. Escaping on many holidays. Binge watching tv shows in one night. Arguments over dishes, laundry, and who hogs the blanket the most. (PS. Our solution is to have 2 blankets). And while it's only a teeny, tiny toe dip into the pond of married life -- I can't wait to experience more surreal and normal moments life throws at us.
Celebrating 6 months of married life with my partner in crime ❤ When people ask me what married life is like, I say: "It feels both utterly surreal and completely normal all at the same time." Surreal because I'm amazed at all the events that led us here. And normal because it feels like Ben has always been by my side. The past 6 months have been filled with new discoveries about each other's quirks. Escaping on many holidays. Binge watching tv shows in one night. Arguments over dishes, laundry, and who hogs the blanket the most. (PS. Our solution is to have 2 blankets). And while it's only a teeny, tiny toe dip into the pond of married life -- I can't wait to experience more surreal and normal moments life throws at us.
Celebrating 6 months of married life with my partner in crime ❤ When people ask me what married life is like, I say: "It feels both utterly surreal and completely normal all at the same time." Surreal because I'm amazed at all the events that led us here. And normal because it feels like Ben has always been by my side. The past 6 months have been filled with new discoveries about each other's quirks. Escaping on many holidays. Binge watching tv shows in one night. Arguments over dishes, laundry, and who hogs the blanket the most. (PS. Our solution is to have 2 blankets). And while it's only a teeny, tiny toe dip into the pond of married life -- I can't wait to experience more surreal and normal moments life throws at us.
Celebrating 6 months of married life with my partner in crime ❤ When people ask me what married life is like, I say: "It feels both utterly surreal and completely normal all at the same time." Surreal because I'm amazed at all the events that led us here. And normal because it feels like Ben has always been by my side. The past 6 months have been filled with new discoveries about each other's quirks. Escaping on many holidays. Binge watching tv shows in one night. Arguments over dishes, laundry, and who hogs the blanket the most. (PS. Our solution is to have 2 blankets). And while it's only a teeny, tiny toe dip into the pond of married life -- I can't wait to experience more surreal and normal moments life throws at us.
Celebrating 6 months of married life with my partner in crime ❤ When people ask me what married life is like, I say: "It feels both utterly surreal and completely normal all at the same time." Surreal because I'm amazed at all the events that led us here. And normal because it feels like Ben has always been by my side. The past 6 months have been filled with new discoveries about each other's quirks. Escaping on many holidays. Binge watching tv shows in one night. Arguments over dishes, laundry, and who hogs the blanket the most. (PS. Our solution is to have 2 blankets). And while it's only a teeny, tiny toe dip into the pond of married life -- I can't wait to experience more surreal and normal moments life throws at us.
Celebrating 6 months of married life with my partner in crime ❤ When people ask me what married life is like, I say: "It feels both utterly surreal and completely normal all at the same time." Surreal because I'm amazed at all the events that led us here. And normal because it feels like Ben has always been by my side. The past 6 months have been filled with new discoveries about each other's quirks. Escaping on many holidays. Binge watching tv shows in one night. Arguments over dishes, laundry, and who hogs the blanket the most. (PS. Our solution is to have 2 blankets). And while it's only a teeny, tiny toe dip into the pond of married life -- I can't wait to experience more surreal and normal moments life throws at us.
Celebrating 6 months of married life with my partner in crime ❤ When people ask me what married life is like, I say: "It feels both utterly surreal and completely normal all at the same time." Surreal because I'm amazed at all the events that led us here. And normal because it feels like Ben has always been by my side. The past 6 months have been filled with new discoveries about each other's quirks. Escaping on many holidays. Binge watching tv shows in one night. Arguments over dishes, laundry, and who hogs the blanket the most. (PS. Our solution is to have 2 blankets). And while it's only a teeny, tiny toe dip into the pond of married life -- I can't wait to experience more surreal and normal moments life throws at us.
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Celebrating 6 months of married life with my partner in crime ❤ When people ask me what married life is like, I say: "It feels both utterly surreal and completely normal all at the same time." Surreal because I'm amazed at all the events that led us here. And normal because it feels like Ben has always been by my side. The past 6 months have been filled with new discoveries about each other's quirks. Escaping on many holidays. Binge watching tv shows in one night. Arguments over dishes, laundry, and who hogs the blanket the most. (PS. Our solution is to have 2 blankets). And while it's only a teeny, tiny toe dip into the pond of married life -- I can't wait to experience more surreal and normal moments life throws at us.
1 month ago
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Bliss in Bali 🐠🌴 Spent a surreal week chasing waterfalls, visiting countless infinity pools, and making every hour happy hour.
Bliss in Bali 🐠🌴 Spent a surreal week chasing waterfalls, visiting countless infinity pools, and making every hour happy hour.
Bliss in Bali 🐠🌴 Spent a surreal week chasing waterfalls, visiting countless infinity pools, and making every hour happy hour.
Bliss in Bali 🐠🌴 Spent a surreal week chasing waterfalls, visiting countless infinity pools, and making every hour happy hour.
Bliss in Bali 🐠🌴 Spent a surreal week chasing waterfalls, visiting countless infinity pools, and making every hour happy hour.
Bliss in Bali 🐠🌴 Spent a surreal week chasing waterfalls, visiting countless infinity pools, and making every hour happy hour.
Bliss in Bali 🐠🌴 Spent a surreal week chasing waterfalls, visiting countless infinity pools, and making every hour happy hour.
Bliss in Bali 🐠🌴 Spent a surreal week chasing waterfalls, visiting countless infinity pools, and making every hour happy hour.
Bliss in Bali 🐠🌴 Spent a surreal week chasing waterfalls, visiting countless infinity pools, and making every hour happy hour.
Bliss in Bali 🐠🌴 Spent a surreal week chasing waterfalls, visiting countless infinity pools, and making every hour happy hour.
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Bliss in Bali 🐠🌴 Spent a surreal week chasing waterfalls, visiting countless infinity pools, and making every hour happy hour.
2 months ago
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When I first started my business, I used to be so scared of selling. Which is kinda ironic because as a launch copywriter who's really good at helping others sell their courses, you'd think I'd be good at this too. But for a long time, I would curl up into a ball and hide. I didn't want to be annoying or alienate my audience. So I'd try to do it as subtly as possible and hoping that *one* caption would somehow convince someone to buy from me. But because I wasn't marketing or selling... I wasn't getting as many clients… Which meant I didn't get the revenue I wanted… Which meant I spent more time worrying about how to make money instead of focusing on what I *really* wanted to do - which was to make an impact. But then I heard this mindset shift that really helped me: Selling, when done ethically, isn’t bad. Selling is just a conversation between you and your prospect. It's all about empathising with the challenges they're facing and laying out the reasons why your course or product will help them. Because think about it: If you knew you had an amazing product that you *know* is going to transform someone's life for the better - why would you hoard it and keep it all to yourself? So if you've been scared to sell your courses or services, remember that selling isn't bad. It's about having empathy-driven conversations and getting your solution in front of more of the right people so you can change their life for the better. And if you've been wondering how to translate those conversations^ into your launch assets and sell in a way that doesn't give you the ick... My launch packages are all about pinpointing exactly what your audience needs to hear, identifying the best stories you should share, and creating empathy-driven sales assets that make your audience understand why you're worth buying from. Now booking for August. Link in bio. . . . . . . #freelancewriter #creativecopywriter #launchcopy #digitalproductlaunch #coursecreators #creativeentrepreneur #launchcopywriter #creativepreneur #evergreenlaunch #livelaunch #launchemails #businesschicks #salespage #launchcopywriter #womanownedbusiness #freelancingfemales
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When I first started my business, I used to be so scared of selling. Which is kinda ironic because as a launch copywriter who's really good at helping others sell their courses, you'd think I'd be good at this too. But for a long time, I would curl up into a ball and hide. I didn't want to be annoying or alienate my audience. So I'd try to do it as subtly as possible and hoping that *one* caption would somehow convince someone to buy from me. But because I wasn't marketing or selling... I wasn't getting as many clients… Which meant I didn't get the revenue I wanted… Which meant I spent more time worrying about how to make money instead of focusing on what I *really* wanted to do - which was to make an impact. But then I heard this mindset shift that really helped me: Selling, when done ethically, isn’t bad. Selling is just a conversation between you and your prospect. It's all about empathising with the challenges they're facing and laying out the reasons why your course or product will help them. Because think about it: If you knew you had an amazing product that you *know* is going to transform someone's life for the better - why would you hoard it and keep it all to yourself? So if you've been scared to sell your courses or services, remember that selling isn't bad. It's about having empathy-driven conversations and getting your solution in front of more of the right people so you can change their life for the better. And if you've been wondering how to translate those conversations^ into your launch assets and sell in a way that doesn't give you the ick... My launch packages are all about pinpointing exactly what your audience needs to hear, identifying the best stories you should share, and creating empathy-driven sales assets that make your audience understand why you're worth buying from. Now booking for August. Link in bio. . . . . . . #freelancewriter #creativecopywriter #launchcopy #digitalproductlaunch #coursecreators #creativeentrepreneur #launchcopywriter #creativepreneur #evergreenlaunch #livelaunch #launchemails #businesschicks #salespage #launchcopywriter #womanownedbusiness #freelancingfemales
3 months ago
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