When Success Comes Calling, Are You Going to Like Who You Are?

When I was younger, I believed success looked like me sitting in a glass corner office with the word ‘Partner’ emblazoned on a gold plaque on the door. This image was the ultimate goal and I did everything I could in high school to fulfil this vision: I put my head down, worked hard and got accepted into a reputable law school.

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We Should Feel Celebrated No Matter How Our Birthday Turns Out

The problem with always looking up at the sky and waiting for the fireworks is that you miss out on what’s right in front of you. While your head is craned up towards the sky, you miss out on the people that are trying to celebrate you in their own way. You miss out on the magic of a slow burn that promises to keep flickering in the long run

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What Meeting My Favourite Author Taught Me About Comparison.

I got caught in the trap that writers who rely on their work for a living fall into. I focused less on the joy of writing, and more on how I could make it work for me. I wanted to grow and earn a substantial living. I was hungry for more validation, money, and readers. I wanted to be known for my beautiful prose and stories, just like the author whose words I’d stumbled on.

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The Best Things Are Ahead

All that to say, your best is not behind you; they’re ahead. Every opportunity and ‘win’ you’ve had so far is a jumping off platform for your next big win. You’ll continue to land promotions that match your expertise. You’ll get better at perfecting your craft and your work will land in front of the right audience. The more you keep daring to roll the dice, the further ahead you’ll progress along the board. There will be some dips and lows along the way (success isn’t linear, after all) but it’ll make the destination worth it.

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On Overcoming Resistance & Doing Hard Things

I’m currently reading a book called The War of Art. It explores this idea of ‘Resistance’ and how a negative energy exists to push us back whenever we try to improve ourselves. For some, ‘improving ourselves’ means achieving a long-held fitness goal. For others, it could be learning to be better with money, or putting…

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Are There Good Things Ahead For Me?

I thought my life would be ‘good’ when every area of my life – love, work, friendships- was running smoothly. But work and friendships would be thriving, while my heart broke. Or I’d be surrounded by a loving community but feel unfulfilled about my job and my finances.

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The Rear View Mirror

A string of messages flooded my phone on Friday night. “I’ve made a decision about the future of this page,” said the message. “I think we should move on.” ‘The page’ the message was referring to was the health & wellbeing platform I helped bring to life during my uni days.  Two years ago, I…

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The Story of Us: How do You Know When a Relationship is ‘Right’?

I celebrated my one-year anniversary with Ben two weeks ago. As someone who once thought I wouldn’t last 1-month with anyone, 12 months feels a little surreal. It made me think back to the time before we started dating and how uncertain I felt about commitment, feelings, and relationships. I used to go around asking…

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Reflections After Graduating Law School

It’s official – after 5 (long) years, I can now say that I’ve graduated from law school.   When I saw the notification telling me I had completed my course, I felt elated. But only for a brief moment. The euphoria lasted two minutes before I threw myself back into my work meetings with clients…

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A Letter On Creativity & Comparison

The following email was reposted with permission. Dear Ash, A large part of why I create is because I don’t know who I am without it. I especially love that through creating I’m able to make people feel like themselves. Because for so long, that’s what creating has meant for me. It’s been both a…

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